I'm not an natural flirter. By any stretch of the imagination. I remember my first boy-girl humiliation when I asked a boy, one of my older brother's best friends, if he wanted to dance with me. He screamed out loudly, across the room so everyone could hear: "WITH YOU? NEVER!" I felt so brave beforehand and absolutely humiliated afterwards. I never tried that again. I shut down that part of me. Add to that, I was never a girl's girl. I debated politics with my brothers and at the dinner table in my family. I was into geopolitics when I was seven:), but also ghosts, the shadow side, and of course my own deep spiritual connection that was so treasured, and writing. But flirting. Are you kidding me? I wanted to lead the world, not flirt with it! So, as you can hear, it's been a journey...

Today, I believe flirting should be taught, if not in schools, at least as a side curriculum, because society today is just impossibly bad at it. Because while I didn't know how to flirt, I've always been playful and very curious. When I discovered flirting, it was like three in one deal. When we flirt, without trying to make anything happen, we move into a flow, a dance, of connection. Yes, it has a sexual connotation, and it's amazing when it's someone you are really attracted to, and it's mutual, but flirting in general is so restorative. When I flirt with women, especially cosmic flirting, I blossom. And when I flirt with men, when I feel safe, it creates an innocent and friction-filled erotic cohesion that goes for miles. A weaving of opposites, connecting through play. 

So today/tomorrow, explore flirting with someone. You can even tell them you are experimenting, and let them in on the play. In a disconnected world, flirting is a super-tool and a gift.