Yes to the orgasms the woman sitting at the next table is having! Yes to the clothes, the style and the feminine playfulness you saw carried and expressed by that woman on the subway yesterday. Yes to getting what the spring flowers and the birds are celebrating. Yes, I want more. Give it me! I want it all! 

Most women don't know what they want. Finding out what we deeply long for is a practice. Owning our desires and longings is another level of engagement. And letting ourselves be filled with the essence of these longings and desires is a third level.

One of fastest ways to discover our longings is to look at other women we envy. How come she got that promotion and not me? I've been here longer and worked harder. It's unfair! Or, how come I end up every weekend on my own, despite that all my closest friends have found their dream partner? Or how come she looks so good, despite being less fit than I am?

Jealousy between women is an evolutionary built-in strategy from the time when the tribes roamed the Savannah. Maybe we find it shameful today, but it's actually a beautiful divination tool. If I feel jealousy towards another woman, it is because she's having something I want myself, but that I don't dare to admit to myself. Something I'm not claiming for myself yet. So I project it onto 'her', instead of leaning into my own desires, wants and longings. To feel these embers of longing glow inside me, fuels me into a huge expansion of energy. We get so turned on that we start dripping. We become so inspired by someone else's orgasm that we order it ourselves, without hesitation. 

In the beginning our desires and longings might be shallow. But if we keep leaning into the flame of existence, longings take us all the way to the core of creation itself. We become our longings. We become the cupcakes we couldn't live without. We become the partner we couldn't exist without. We become one with life-force, and suddenly, we are no longer chasing life. Life starts coming to us, and what we once sought, is now internalized. We become the source of creation - and yes, it just happens that we often start getting what we once desired as well. But now without the clinging. 

What are you envious about right now? And what are you really desiring right now? And are you ready to have the orgasms the woman next door is having?