I have an American PT here in Stockholm, and we often end up talking about Eros and women. Like what he sees with many of his mostly middle-aged women clients who are fixated in their hips and because there is not enough life-force, or Eros, coming through the body, many also have weight issues*. And how his Mom wants to turn back time and only talk about his childhood. I believe this is common for most of us. My strategy has instead been to always focus on the future. The next big project, dream, manifestation. Neither works, though. Because Eros lives in the now. In each breath. And Eros lives more than anything in our bodies, in our sensuality and when we sway our hips. Sure, there is also truth in that as we age, our focus might shift towards the past instead of the future. But that is because it's easier. The real reason we lose contact with Eros is because we aren't in presence and because we can't feel our jewels and our embodied pleasure. I also want to say this is not easy. I've done an insane amount of inner work for 20 years now, and practice every day, yet Eros is still elusive. But she doesn't go away. She is just longing for us to remember her, to find that spark in the eye, the glitter in our hips, and the flirtation that never goes away So, in the end it is a myth that we lose contact with Eros as we age. We lose contact with Eros, with her, all the time. And she will never leave us. She's just at the tip of your fingertips, calling you home to your Erotic magnificence. 

Do you follow her call?

*Obviously menopause in midlife, hormones in general and metabolism overall, highly impact our weight issues. But my PT is right as well, which is also at the core of what I teach. The more our life-force, our sexual energy, moves, the more it also impacts the relationship with our bodies, how well they function, and our weight. On a personal note. As I've gotten more into my head again, my weight has gone up. Mostly related to an excess amount of dark chocolate, I could add, but also because I'm eating more when I'm my head. And now, as my focus is returning to my body and eros once more, the energy moves more fluidly through my body, and the weight is slowly, very slowly, but surely, starting to budge.