Lovisa's Blog

Seth Godin, maybe the world's most known marketing guru, shared his theory of burn-out on a podcast with Marie Forleo today. He said: "We burn out when we have conflicting wants, and are not prepared to choose". He took the example of wanting to clean out a drawer, and on the one hand, we want to have more space. But on the other hand, we are emotionally attached to what's in the drawer and don't know exactly what is worth keeping or not, so we get stuck between these two desires. I  believe thi...

Recently, I'm getting a bit obsessive about the crone, or the matriarch. Maybe because I'm moving more into that stage age-wise, and can own my crone more, but more so, I think, is because I realize how much she's needed - and I find her sexy. Here's a quote from one of my biggest wisdom teachers; Marilyn Woodman, the Jungian psychoanalyst who worked with women and the feminine for 40 years. 

"The Crone has been missing from our culture for so long that many women, particularly young girls, know ...

I'm not an natural flirter. By any stretch of the imagination. I remember my first boy-girl humiliation when I asked a boy, one of my older brother's best friends, if he wanted to dance with me. He screamed out loudly, across the room so everyone could hear: "WITH YOU? NEVER!" I felt so brave beforehand and absolutely humiliated afterwards. I never tried that again. I shut down that part of me. Add to that, I was never a girl's girl. I debated politics with my brothers and at the dinner table in...

“It is not that you want too much, it is that you do not want enough”. Ram Dass

I used that quote in my newsletter Saturday. I explored the notion that we need both; being able to be with what is, and to dare to become it all. In one of my spiritual practices, which is beyond non-duality, I often end up with my partner in becoming all of reality, past, present and future, and becoming 'pregnant' with existence itself. You become G-d, through your body, and it's all inside you, and you are everyth...

One of the most efficient ways turning off our life-force and Eros is to hold back what we want to say. In the last few days, I've felt like I've been stuck in mud, or rather quick-sand, or to be more precise, like cement drying up, enclosing me. I had a session with my teacher tonight, thank goodness, and she had me speak up to her, all the things I'm holding back, as a practice round. I've gotten better at it, but especially when I perceive the stakes are high, my throat seizes up. And then ou...

I have an American PT here in Stockholm, and we often end up talking about Eros and women. Like what he sees with many of his mostly middle-aged women clients who are fixated in their hips and because there is not enough life-force, or Eros, coming through the body, many also have weight issues*. And how his Mom wants to turn back time and only talk about his childhood. I believe this is common for most of us. My strategy has instead been to always focus on the future. The next big project, drea...